Learning how to give a massage is one way of building a deeper connection with your partner. It’s beneficial both physically and mentally. Giving each other massages helps to strengthen your relationship. Wouldn’t it be great to unwind and physically connect after a long day at work while you give a massage to your partner?
Prepare to give a massage
Begin by creating the perfect serene atmosphere. Turn off all your devices that may distract you. Dim the lights, turn on some soft music and light up some scented candles. Pick a spot in the room where you want to give a massage from. Grab some sheets or soft towels – one for your work space and one to cover your partner. This is
important because as skin is massaged, it causes blood flow into that area and that in turn, warms the skin. Therefore, to avoid a chill, cover up the areas that you’re finished massaging. Also have some water nearby as your partner may feel thirsty after a massage.
Things to know before you give a massage
- Make sure to only massage muscle – no stretching of the skin or digging into bone and organs. Remember that massages are for muscles below the skin -not for the skin itself.
- Massage the large muscle groups of the body which are basically the neck, back, shoulders and legs. This way, aside from massaging correctly, you’re getting at the areas that store tension in the body.
- Use firm, even pressure, not too hard or forceful. Pressure that is too light or inconsistent, can be as uncomfortable as too much pressure so be sure to use an even degree.
- Always use a lubricant because they help to prepare and protect the skin. Here is a great sensual massage oil to try.
Now use the following steps to give a massage to your partner.
Step by Step Guide
- Warm up your hands first
- Begin the full body massage at the shoulders by kneading the muscles and
gently pulling them towards you.
- Work across the shoulders to the neck using your thumbs and the tips of your fingers to work from the muscles, across and down the upper back. Watch your nails!
- Work down each arm separately finding the muscle groups in the front and back and kneading them gently. When you get to the hands, use your thumbs to work the palms.
- Return to the upper back and work downwards to the middle of the back using your thumbs and fingertips to work from the center out and pushing upward.
- Continue working down the back to the hips.
- Massage the muscles of the upper thighs and down the back of the legs to the calves spending time kneading each one separately with both hands.
- Move to the foot, start with the heel and hold it firmly while pushing up toward the leg, then down and side-to-side. Work your thumbs on the underside of the foot with deep, slow pressure and also the balls of the feet and in between the toes.
If your partner looks relaxed or falls asleep, you did a great job.
When not to give a massage
Massages are great for the body and almost everyone enjoys them. However not everyone should be given a massage. Please do not give a massage to your partner if they have:
- A bleeding disorder
- Burns or any healing wounds
- Some infections
- Any recent broken bones or fractures
- Any medical conditions like deep vein thrombosis, severe osteoporosis
- A very low platelet count.
I hope you found this step by step guide helpful. Let me know your thoughts in the comments.